Freedom to Say No

We naturally like and want to help each other. Because of this the majority of people find it very hard to say “No” and very often when we do say ‘no’ to someone they are taken aback or even offended or upset, which of course reinforces our reluctance to refuse a request or find some other way of fulfilling what they are asking for.

Most of us have boundaries around what we are and are not prepared to do – “I’ll do anything for love but I won’t do that”. The thing is we need to stick to those boundaries because if we don’t, we’ll find our lives begin to decay into a form of ongoing and increasing ‘servitude’ to others – even if they’re paying us. We become the means by which they achieve their goals at the expense of our personal and spiritual integrity, effectively removing any possibility of us achieving our goals and dreams as we devote more and more effort to what others are looking to be, do and have.

Most people find this ‘not wanting to say no’ conundrum very difficult to resolve. They feel obliged to agree to what others want of them, based on concerns about what others ‘think’ of them. The truth is however people tend to show significantly more respect for those who show themselves respect by declining requests, than those who don’t.

More often than not learning to say no requires some coaching. If it’s an issue for you, book a clarity call  for more details, but do it before the ‘problem’ becomes more embedded and difficult to resolve. Do it now – don’t say “No” to yourself!